I’ve attempted to write this Year in Review several times, but it always seemed to come out with a negative vibe, but alas, it is the New Year! 2017 and pretty soon, it’ll be two years and I”ll have completely moved to a different phase soon. Four months late, but here goes:
A LOT has changed, since we’ve switched to civilian life and this will likely be one of the last posts where I mention the difference, since there’s no going back to the military for us. When you move with the military (generally and from my personal perspective) you know where you will receive your medical care, at 100% coverage, you know where you will buy groceries, without tax, finding a dentist that takes military dental is as easy as a couple mouse clicks and you’ll meet families just like you.
This year, we’ve realized Standard Retiree insurance is NOT going to cover it, there are many levels of dental care provided by Delta Dental, which I had to unfortunately navigate after accidentally seeing a PPO not a Preferred Dentist. What??!!! Grocery store vetting has been a challenging and costly adventure, yet we’ve been so blessed with family and friends willing to share their free-ganic groceries with us. Tuna, Pickles, Squash, Tomatoes, Cabbage, Cucumbers, Liqueur, Jam, Honey, Fruit, Crab, Pork, Nuts, EGGS!! (May we never forget the bounty of eggs we have received this Summer.) I’m sure there are more that I can’t remember. It has been a miraculous year of good eats.
Now friends. Hmm. That’s been an interesting challenge for the boys and myself. Hubby is fine with no friends….only semi joking. Brendon is currently missing his Bestie from last year’s school now that we’ve moved them to yet another new school. (See previous blog post.) And John, despite his attempts at escaping school each morning, we’ve heard he has a best friend at school. Strangely bearing the same name as his Father’s dearest longtime friend. They are so similar! Me, well, what can we say about me? I have my family here, which includes four sisters and their families, my military besties who hear all about the highs and lows of my life through online chat sessions, and I am constantly joking with hubby I’m going to post a photo of my boss’ wife with a tag line that reads: The Making of a Bestie, but I’m trying not to suffocate it at the outset.
We have been sicker as a family than any other time in our married life. Even me!! I know, the apocalypse must be near! I’d like to blame this partly on above mentioned lacking medical care access/coverage by the general population, but who can say the real reason. On bright note, we sold our burden of a house in North Carolina; delightful to receive a tax bill last week and know it belongs to someone else! Oh yeah!!
Where is this going?! If you’re still hanging in there with this blog post, I’m sure you’re about to ask this very question. Well, let me tell you. My dearest Hubby has retired, again. He quit his job after one of my epic mommy tantrums (I may or may not have received a traffic light camera ticket the same day) this past Summer. It was on the heels of his request to go part time for several months being unfulfilled and I was getting a wee bit stressed out trying to manage my work, side projects, the house and have the boys home full time.
We’re currently looking to relocate again, in closer proximity to the boys’ school and hubby isn’t sure he wants to go back to work outside the home, EVER. We’ve joked for many years about him wanting to be a house hubby and turns out it is a reality at the moment. The only problem being, if we want to build our forever house, he’ll likely need a steady stream of outside the home income for a few years; we’ll cross the bridge in 2017.
As for how it’s going at home with Dad running the roost. Well, let’s just say, Day One was the real low of stay at home Dad life. It was bedtime and said dad was chasing the boys to their room at bedtime, calling them “little sh*ts”. They were running for cover and I was enjoying the scene. It’s only Monday morning Mr.Mom. He’s finding out that “kids in school all day” and “free time” of a stay at home parent is not what it seems. There are floors to clean, laundry to fold, homework to supervise, meals to cook and taxi duties. Dare I say, the boys are thriving and Vance is really HAPPY for the first time in a very, very, long time, circa 2001.
My Job – Going back to work has been a roller coaster of emotions for me. I realize how much I do love architecture and working, but being away from my little family so much has been a real shift, along with a steady decrease in time for my sewing. And I only work part time! Imagine if I worked all day. Work is going really well; we are steady with projects (dare I say busy?!) and we turned in what I’ve deemed a local record – 5 projects on the final day of the year for permit review. In lieu of a proper post about my work, I’ll say, Tom Hartman, one of my ASU professors, was right. It’s always best to work with friends. You already like/trust one another and in the midst of chaos and deadline they won’t leave you high and dry. Working with Jason (aka Shakey) has fit that bill perfectly. It’s been a crazy amazing year of work, with only a few days of frustration between the two of us.